You Are What You Celebrate
By Yasmin Razack ~ limitlesswomen.ca
I was OVER love and finding true love the night of April, 7th
2006. I went out to party with my
girlfriends with no desire to talk to any man; it was a night to forget about
my past and move on with life. My mindset was life is amazing with or without a
partner…but that night someone had a different plan.
To say I was in a horrible state emotionally was an understatement,
my twin sister which some refer to as “my partner” was about to give birth to
her first child and life as I knew it was about to change drastically for her;
and I wanted to be right by her side. For everything.
Then it happened.
As a Trini we dance- HARD. There I was dancing like it was
going out of style when a handsome young man with a killer smile comes up to me and says, “…you look
familiar, did you go to York? I think I know you!?”
“No…sorry. Don’t know you at all” And I continue to dance.
But he was persistent. “Yes, I am sure of it…what is your name”
I admit, I was in such a bad space and not interested
whatsoever so excuse the rudeness that followed, “ I have my Master’s and I am
not interested in talking with any man who doesn’t share my education level-
hope that doesn’t intimidate you…” I just wanted to get back to dancing.
“Ohh well I am graduating from my MBA, next year hope that
doesn’t intimidate you!”
Ummm. I began to laugh and the night began. He was such a
gentleman, asking if he could dance with me and we did.
All night.
At one point I thought I lost him and then miraculously we
found each other in the massiveness of the downtown Toronto nightclub. What I
felt that night was magical, I knew he was someone special even thought we
didn’t talk much. Instead of giving him my number at his request I reverted to
email and our first date was almost 2 months after that night.
The rest is history. I met Vim Thasan on April 7th,
2006 and we eventually married on Aug 1, 2008. 9 months later our daughter
Kamea was born and last May we had our son Khyam
I have never been happier.
I feel like I have truly met my match in life, someone who
always supports me in everything I do.
He inspires me to be a better person every day, in all I do-
just by being him.
I want to do more in life just so I can experience it with
him.
I love how he lets me be me…and loves me for not only who I
am but what I can be.
I always believe “You are what you celebrate” and today I
celebrate our love and marriage of 4 years. Many people choose not to celebrate
milestones, calling it ‘cheesy’ or the classic saying “we celebrate our love
everyday”. My belief is that taking a moment of gratitude through celebrating
allows for a ritual that only increases in value as you grow older.
When you celebrate, those celebrate around you. Your
friends, family and most importantly your children will recognize the
importance you place on your relationship. The more you show each other how
much you appreciate and celebrate the fact your relationship has lasted "x" number of years, others around you will undoubtedly bring more value to it….strengthening
your relationship even more for years to come.
You are what you celebrate. How have you celebrated your
“Milestone’s of Love?”
Yasmin Razack is a Personal + Professional Life Coach who works with for women of diverse backgrounds to discover their limitless potential in all aspects of life. For more information please visit limitlesswomen.ca or email her at yrazack@gmail.com.
2 comments:
Thank you for this thoughtful post Yasmin.
If I may share an experience between you and I. A few weeks ago, after I had achieved a small success in my professional life, you asked me "How did you celebrate it(the accomplishment)?" And I was confused "What do you mean by celebrate it?"
And you said: I don't know. You have to define for yourself what celebration means. How does your family celebrate? Was your accomplishment acknowledged in any way?
And the truth is - no it wasn't. No I didn't. And no we don't.
I can't tell you how much that conversation had an impact on me. I've gone over it again, and again, and again in my head. So when my husband was recently promoted to a senior producer position at his news network, I told him I was very proud of him. He said "it's not a big deal." And I told him that it's important to celebrate, in whatever way, or to acknowledge something good, and I wanted to acknowledge his success, even just with words, but that it shouldn't be brushed off as nothing.
Thanks for demonstrating how important celebration is.
xoxo
~Natasha Fatah~
Yas you inspire me everyday to celebrate love more often. Thank you for such an incredible reminder to be in the moment and recognize what needs to be recognized daily.
xoxo
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